I recently read an article by Jennifer Oaten entitled, ‘How Much is Too Much”. It was an interesting discussion about how busy our children’s lives can be and the impact that overtiredness can have on their learning. Jennifer posed the question, ‘What do the weekends look like for your children? Water polo Friday night, followed by a sleepover with a friend. Pick up at 8.00 am for athletics, dance, or netball, followed by a birthday party. Sunday starts more gently for some families, with Mass followed by a family lunch and then a BBQ with friends. Everyone rolls in the door at 8.00 pm, exhausted, emotional and tense with others due to exhaustion.’ This is without even considering the potential escalation that can occur when one child remembers that they have forgotten about an upcoming test or an assignment that is due the next day.
Like many of you, I want my child to have fun, explore different interests and develop their talents. I am also conscious of the importance of helping her to find a bit of balance and ensure there is enough time for rest during the week. Sometimes it is not an easy balance to strike.
Being overtired can affect a child’s ability to concentrate, remember, and process information. In her article, Jennifer outlined some tips for helping your children find some balance:
1. Set realistic boundaries. Saying no is one of the hardest parts of being a parent. Let them choose the activities but develop a realistic schedule with limits, which leaves room for spontaneous activities and events.
2. Monitor their workload and stress levels. Check-in with your child regularly and ask them how they are feeling and coping. Look for signs of fatigue, such as headaches, insomnia, mood swings, loss of appetite, or lack of enthusiasm. If you notice any of these, help them reduce or adjust their commitments.
3. Encourage them to prioritise and manage their time. Teach your child how to plan ahead, write to-do lists, and organise their tasks. Help them create a balanced schedule that includes time for schoolwork, activities, family, friends, and hobbies.
4. Emphasise the importance of rest and relaxation. Make sure your child gets enough sleep, at least eight to ten hours a night. Help them establish a regular bedtime routine that involves winding down and avoiding screens. Also, encourage them to take breaks throughout the day and do something relaxing, such as reading, listening to music, meditating, or breathing exercises, all of which help with the rejuvenation of our bodies.
5. Model the behaviour you want to see. Children learn from observing and imitating their parents and teachers. If you want them to find the balance between activities and rest, you need to do the same. Show them that you value your own wellbeing and that you take care of yourself. Share with them your own struggles and strategies for coping with stress and fatigue.
God bless.
Angela Myles